Normalize Having a GOALS BUDDY — Here’s The Story of Mine

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I have this friend, and about five years ago we unintentionally started a new tradition: work together Wednesdays. It’s a time for us to get together, check in on our goals, and strategize how to get there. For a few hours a week, whether that’s really on a Wednesday or a Friday or a Saturday, we bounce ideas off each other and make sure we’re on track, focused, and motivated. Five years in, and I can honestly say this may be the key to finding success in life.

I think it’s important to talk about how this all started. Back in 2020, my friend Ashleigh was hardcore burning out from her assistant stylist job, ultimately leading to her quitting. I was a freelancer who had just moved to Brooklyn only to lose 2/3 of her marketing clients (and ultimately making less than rent). Tears in our eyes and hearts desperate for more, we sat at Café Paulette, ordering a brunch we could no longer afford and vowed to better our lives. We talked about what our ultimate dreams are in life and promised each other we would achieve them, no matter what.

We started meeting every few weeks to work together, brainstorming ideas, tweaking each other’s resumes, proof-reading pitches, and establishing our rates. We’d dream big and voice how much money we want to make, the type of work we want to do, or the cities we want to end up in.

Fast forward five years and we are still keeping up with our meetings. And let me tell you — the amount of times we clink our glasses and toast to how far we’ve come is inspiring, actually. We would love to show those two broken girls just how far you can go if you commit to your goals buddy.

I was able to pivot from being a freelance marketing manager to a full time fashion writer at a major magazine, getting my dream dog, and no longer living off of my savings. For Ashleigh, it meant starting her own consulting company, appropriately named No Matter What LLC, and organizing massive events across boarders.

We still have plenty of goals we want to achieve, so these meetings are still a reoccurring event. Just yesterday we sat together and journaled our strategy for 2025, establishing what the overarching goal is and then breaking it down by month. 

In the same way people have a gym buddy or a study buddy, having each other as our goal’s buddy allows us to hold each other accountable and expand on big ideas. No matter how busy we have gotten, we still find time to get together and ask each other what the vision is, before creating our strategy.

So here’s my recommendation to you: find your goal’s buddy. Find someone who shares similar hopes and dreams and will keep you in check. Actively carve out hours in your month where all you do is work towards your big dreams. Trust us when we say, this will pay off in the end.