How to Maintain a Healthy, Love-filled RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF
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Here’s the thing.
You’re never going to be the prettiest girl in the world.
You’re never going to be the smartest person on the planet.
There’s always going to be someone with more money.
There’s always going to be someone with a bigger home, longer legs, juicier booty, you name it.
And that’s 👏🏼o👏🏼kay👏🏼
As a matter of fact, that’s fantastic! It frees you from the burden of being number 1. You can completely remove the stress of trying to be number 1 and focus on more important things: you.
Because no matter how much time you spend wishing you were a certain other person you envy, you are never going to magically morph into that person. It is not doing you any good, and it is merely time wasted.
Instead, take that time to think about yourself. Physically, emotionally, holistically, who are you? What unique position do you hold in your family, friend group, job, universe? If you find yourself unhappy with that position, what’s holding you back from changing it? What position do you want to hold? Believe me when I say, no matter how impossible it might seem, you can a 100000% reach that position with time and love. It’ll take a combination of minding your own business (aka focusing your thoughts on you), visualizing your dream life, and incorporating more self-love activities into your routine.
When you find your mind taking its focus away from you and going into a negative pattern of comparison, physically stop in your tracks and gently handhold your mind back to you. Praise your unique features, just as they are. Love the story you come from and the story you plan on creating. Appreciate the rough past, and know your future doesn’t have to be the same.
At the end of the day, what makes a person so radiant with attractive energy is their confidence. You’ve heard it again and again, because it’s true. Confidence shines infinitely brighter than a good jaw structure (take it from a girl with no jawline). Let go of all things you cannot change, and embrace those that you can. Do not fret your pretty little mind with what others think, how they look, or what they do.
“The key, I’ve found, is to stay the heck away from the idea of “making” someone do, feel, or think anything. This is not your job. Your job is to maximize your own happiness, kindness, and health. Let others choose whether to follow.” - Martha Beck
I have never looked at another girl and thought: I’d rather be her. That tends to shock people, which shocks me in return. I look at beautiful women and am inspired by them, I love their features, I love the space they so confidently hold in their own lives. I root them on and I take influence from them. But I never look at them with envy, hate, or jealousy, just love. Because they are fantastic as they are, and I am fantastic as I am, and we can all coexist fantastically in our own bodies.
